Be very wary whenever you find yourself not following the advice that you'd give to a good friend.
We can be too harsh or too gentle on ourselves but can have much greater objectivity when advising a friend who is in similar circumstances.
Consider the advice that you'd give to a friend and then take it.
In most instances, you'll be on the right track.
I made a very poor decision in my personal life once, and after I'd done it (and it had worked out very poorly) I said to my closest friends, why didn't you warn me when that was obviously the wrong decision? They all said, well yes they had had concerns and they had actually mentioned them to me.
ReplyDeleteI said next time I'm doing something that stupid, if I don't listen to your general concerns, you need to come right out and tell me I'm being a dumb*ss, because hinting at it is not sufficient.
And now I'm trying to do a better job listening and not let my own optimism bias drown out the dissenting voices.
Well, live and learn. - Bobbo
Bobbo,
ReplyDeleteI have had similar experiences.
In my experience, if intuition says that something may be good, it may or may not be correct.
If it signals something may be wrong, it is almost always correct.
Michael
Good advice.
ReplyDelete-Bobbo
Bobbo,
ReplyDeleteThanks!
Michael