I'm ripping through this very good and timely book. Some excerpts:
I grew up in a middle-class home. Some of my friends had more than we did, some had less - but socioeconomics had basically no bearing on our relationships in our 25,000-person town. At the Fremont Wrestling Club, I cared only who threw the best headlock and who had the quickest sweeping single-leg shot. I honestly didn't know whose mom and dad had higher-status jobs. There was only one Little League baseball association, and there was only one Jaycees football league, and everyone was in both.
This is no longer true.
Brad Wilson, a sociologist at the University of Virginia, has labeled this elite unwillingness to admit the importance of family structure and parenting "talking left, walking right." What he's put his finger on is the difference between what so many college graduates tend to preach for others versus what they actually practice in their own lives. At the same time that the upper third of modern America is proclaiming its open-mindedness on matters of family life and sexual ethics, most of us are actually living staunchly "conservative" or "bourgeois" lives.