The excuses that we use after something has blown up are more like apologies than excuses. At that point, it's too late to do much about a problem but we want others to know why we acted in a certain manner.
Much more dangerous are the silent excuses; the ones we tell ourselves so we can justify not doing what we know would be best. They are barely noticeable and may take split-seconds so we can rush past any reservations and pretend a sound alternative wasn't present. If we don't explore the downsides, afterwards we can water down any remorse.
Catching the silent excuse is a valuable but difficult skill. One key technique: When there is a feeling that something might not be right, interrupt yourself and take time to think.
After all, you and your mind are supposed to be on the same side.
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