We may think ourselves bold while others regard us as rash. Our analytical nature may be derided as indecisiveness. What we call reserved may be labeled stand-offish. Our drive may be tagged as pushiness.
Every virtue has a downside and people do not always view our conduct in the light or from the angle that we would select if we were able to direct their attention or write their script.
They will choose their own place to stand and will cast us in the role they devise. All we can do is to behave in a manner that will encourage the right decision.