Have you ever had a conversation with someone and not realized their real meaning until hours, days or perhaps even years later?
I have.
If only everyone used our own styles of communication, matters would be simpler, but they don't. One person's description of something as "fine" may mean "terrible." Hesitations and gaps can be more eloquent than words.
In retrospect, I've found that the shorter the conversation, the greater the potential for misunderstanding. Connection, particularly between strangers, requires time and the right environment so sufficient light can be generated to spot the nuances. You need not slow down the rate of speech so much as the rate and content of the total conversation.
Move the conversation to a comfortable setting that is relatively free of interruptions, then take time to sort out what is meant from what is said.
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